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Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Ballroom Dancing – It’s Business Prep 101
Ballroom Dancing – It’s not just about dance, it’s about business.
It was the start of my Sophomore year of college. I’d just returned from Europe and was open to trying new things and conquering my fears. I’d always aspired to the ideal of the classical Renaissance man and felt the need to learn how to dance, but was always afraid of looking like a fool. In a bolder moment I signed up for a Ballroom/Latin/Swing hybrid class. Though I didn’t know it at the time, I had just made one of the most important business and social decisions of my college career.
It is only common sense that no matter who you are ballroom dance classes are good for you. It’s great physical exercise, it’s social, and it’s definitely not going to hurt your dating life. In the last year or two the public’s opinion and passion for ballroom has exploded with movies like Take the Lead and shows like Dancing with the Stars drawing large crowds. This increase in popularity is great, but not ultimately important to what I want to share with you. I’m not talking about how dance will get you laid – I want to talk to you about how dance is going to make you a more capable and better connected business professional.
It’s no secret that for the average American public speaking is terrifying. It also shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to tell you that being a successful, well connected, and competent business person requires the ability to socialize and be competent in social settings. To this day universities teach public speaking classes, clubs like the Toastmasters have become popular and hundreds of business self-help books have become best sellers. While these all have merit none of them are fun or, for that matter, all that efficient. Classes don’t provide for any significant amount of practice, speech clubs are great but can be intimidating and hard work and books take time and may tell you what to do but still don’t provide a place to do it in. Thus, the power and benefit of Ballroom Dancing.
At its very core, Ballroom Dancing is all about relationships and presentation. While it might be possible, it’s pretty difficult to Waltz or Salsa without a partner. Add to that, Ballroom Dancing has been used as the primary social mixer at formal social events for hundreds, perhaps thousands of years. Ballroom Dancing is a must for the aspiring business professional for the following reasons:
Physical Presence – Your posture and presence says a lot about you. Ballroom will not only improve your posture, it will increase your balance and physical presence while making you more aware of how your body looks and moves. A strong handshake is good but ultimately worthless if you lack the presence to back it up.
The first 30 Seconds – In most situations people decide a lot about you in the first 30 seconds. This is unfortunate because the first 30 seconds is also typically when we are at our worst. Social dance classes and dance clubs provide the opportunity for individuals to interact with a large number of friendly faces in a relatively short time. This increases your comfort and first contact competency in general – not just when meeting or talking to potential dance partners.
The Confidence to Approach – It’s incredibly difficult to approach someone you are not familiar with and then to try and strike up a conversation regardless of the audience or location. Ballroom revolves around just this type of behavior. Every time you approach an individual for a dance you are building your competency and confidence. The added bonus is that in a dance environment most people actively want to be approached. There is nothing like positive reinforcement to build competence.
Be the flame, not the moth – Most formal events typically have several standard components. A nice meal, a live band or a DJ and a space set aside to serve as a dance floor. It doesn’t matter if it’s your favorite night club or a black tie event, the same rules apply. The dance floor will stay empty until one or two couples break the ice. By the time three couples take the floor a wave of people will follow. But, guess who gets noticed? The first two couples. Also, consider – what message did you send by not only taking the dance floor when everyone else was afraid to, but by actually knowing what you were doing. You now have the world’s best ice breaker for the rest of the evening. Not only that, but if you’re a young intern or new hire at a company you have now set yourself apart from the other new bloods and distinguished yourself in the veteran’s eyes. In that one action not only do you distinguish yourself, but exhibit confidence and culture - something that in any other situation would take a lot of work and be difficult to do.
Dance is ALWAYS a relevant topic – While you might find the occasional exception, it’s been my experience that almost all adults fall into one of three categories. They know how to dance, they love watching dance, or they have always wanted to learn how to dance. For that reason dance can serve as an incredible fallback/icebreaker in almost any situation. It’s a magical topic that can be used to build familiarity and add uniqueness to any initial interaction.
Social Network – Life is about meeting people. Any successful socialite or business person is constantly looking for ways to meet the right type of people. Unlike bars, clubs, and other similar social settings, dance is all about meeting and interacting in a friendly and conversational setting. When you’re at a dance club it’s about dancing and having fun first and foremost. As a result it’s actually much easier to meet business contacts or make valuable social connections because people typically don’t have their guard up. The dance scene also tends to attract people from more affluent backgrounds. Consider: what type of social class/group places a heavy emphasis on the ability to dance? What social classes have the money to spend on pricey dance lessons?
Just remember above all else – when it comes to dancing, being the best isn’t about skill. It’s about enjoying and enriching yourself, meeting people, and learning. So, perhaps in the future you will consider joining me for a drink and a cigar after a night at the club.
I should note that when I reference Ballroom dancing throughout this article I’m talking about Swing, Latin, and more classical Ballroom dances like Waltz, Foxtrot and Tango.
It was the start of my Sophomore year of college. I’d just returned from Europe and was open to trying new things and conquering my fears. I’d always aspired to the ideal of the classical Renaissance man and felt the need to learn how to dance, but was always afraid of looking like a fool. In a bolder moment I signed up for a Ballroom/Latin/Swing hybrid class. Though I didn’t know it at the time, I had just made one of the most important business and social decisions of my college career.
It is only common sense that no matter who you are ballroom dance classes are good for you. It’s great physical exercise, it’s social, and it’s definitely not going to hurt your dating life. In the last year or two the public’s opinion and passion for ballroom has exploded with movies like Take the Lead and shows like Dancing with the Stars drawing large crowds. This increase in popularity is great, but not ultimately important to what I want to share with you. I’m not talking about how dance will get you laid – I want to talk to you about how dance is going to make you a more capable and better connected business professional.
It’s no secret that for the average American public speaking is terrifying. It also shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to tell you that being a successful, well connected, and competent business person requires the ability to socialize and be competent in social settings. To this day universities teach public speaking classes, clubs like the Toastmasters have become popular and hundreds of business self-help books have become best sellers. While these all have merit none of them are fun or, for that matter, all that efficient. Classes don’t provide for any significant amount of practice, speech clubs are great but can be intimidating and hard work and books take time and may tell you what to do but still don’t provide a place to do it in. Thus, the power and benefit of Ballroom Dancing.
At its very core, Ballroom Dancing is all about relationships and presentation. While it might be possible, it’s pretty difficult to Waltz or Salsa without a partner. Add to that, Ballroom Dancing has been used as the primary social mixer at formal social events for hundreds, perhaps thousands of years. Ballroom Dancing is a must for the aspiring business professional for the following reasons:
Physical Presence – Your posture and presence says a lot about you. Ballroom will not only improve your posture, it will increase your balance and physical presence while making you more aware of how your body looks and moves. A strong handshake is good but ultimately worthless if you lack the presence to back it up.
The first 30 Seconds – In most situations people decide a lot about you in the first 30 seconds. This is unfortunate because the first 30 seconds is also typically when we are at our worst. Social dance classes and dance clubs provide the opportunity for individuals to interact with a large number of friendly faces in a relatively short time. This increases your comfort and first contact competency in general – not just when meeting or talking to potential dance partners.
The Confidence to Approach – It’s incredibly difficult to approach someone you are not familiar with and then to try and strike up a conversation regardless of the audience or location. Ballroom revolves around just this type of behavior. Every time you approach an individual for a dance you are building your competency and confidence. The added bonus is that in a dance environment most people actively want to be approached. There is nothing like positive reinforcement to build competence.
Be the flame, not the moth – Most formal events typically have several standard components. A nice meal, a live band or a DJ and a space set aside to serve as a dance floor. It doesn’t matter if it’s your favorite night club or a black tie event, the same rules apply. The dance floor will stay empty until one or two couples break the ice. By the time three couples take the floor a wave of people will follow. But, guess who gets noticed? The first two couples. Also, consider – what message did you send by not only taking the dance floor when everyone else was afraid to, but by actually knowing what you were doing. You now have the world’s best ice breaker for the rest of the evening. Not only that, but if you’re a young intern or new hire at a company you have now set yourself apart from the other new bloods and distinguished yourself in the veteran’s eyes. In that one action not only do you distinguish yourself, but exhibit confidence and culture - something that in any other situation would take a lot of work and be difficult to do.
Dance is ALWAYS a relevant topic – While you might find the occasional exception, it’s been my experience that almost all adults fall into one of three categories. They know how to dance, they love watching dance, or they have always wanted to learn how to dance. For that reason dance can serve as an incredible fallback/icebreaker in almost any situation. It’s a magical topic that can be used to build familiarity and add uniqueness to any initial interaction.
Social Network – Life is about meeting people. Any successful socialite or business person is constantly looking for ways to meet the right type of people. Unlike bars, clubs, and other similar social settings, dance is all about meeting and interacting in a friendly and conversational setting. When you’re at a dance club it’s about dancing and having fun first and foremost. As a result it’s actually much easier to meet business contacts or make valuable social connections because people typically don’t have their guard up. The dance scene also tends to attract people from more affluent backgrounds. Consider: what type of social class/group places a heavy emphasis on the ability to dance? What social classes have the money to spend on pricey dance lessons?
Just remember above all else – when it comes to dancing, being the best isn’t about skill. It’s about enjoying and enriching yourself, meeting people, and learning. So, perhaps in the future you will consider joining me for a drink and a cigar after a night at the club.
I should note that when I reference Ballroom dancing throughout this article I’m talking about Swing, Latin, and more classical Ballroom dances like Waltz, Foxtrot and Tango.
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Online gaming as a tool to socially enable the disabled.
When I started work on my Thesis for the honors program at Arizona State University I expected revelations about the computer gaming world and the social significance of MMOGs (Massively Multiplayer Online Games). However, I never expected that I'd stumble upon information that could literally re-define and enrich the lives of individuals with physical disabilities.
The quote that got my attention came in the form of a response submitted to the survey I had posted as part of my thesis work. The open ended response came from a Canadian man in his late 30s who reported working in the government/civil service industry. The gentleman reported,
While recently news coverage has started to shift, coverage of online gaming (I'm talking Orcs and Elves not Blackjack) typically revolves around mal-adjusted, antisocial, violent youths. While I'm a firm believer that that type of coverage is a disgusting distortion of reality - the issue I'm writing about today deals with a very different type of gamer. It is my belief that online games - specifically massively multiplayer games - such as World of Warcraft, Everquest 2, SecondLife etc. are a gift to individuals with disabilities.
The sad reality is that America is a beauty obsessed nation. Beyond that though, humans in general typically experience discomfort when initially interacting with individuals with disabilities. For many that discomfort can cause them to shun, flee, or avoid situations where they might have the opportunity to interact with individuals with disabilities.
Now, to be clear - when I say MMOGs are a gift to individuals with disabilities I'm talking about anyone with a physical disability that would still allow them to engage in game play (e.g. the ability to see the screen and to enter keyboard commands). On the flip side of that I'm not just talking about people confined to wheel chairs or their beds. I'm talking about severe burn victims, the deaf, people with severe allergies - anyone who faces obstacles while trying to communicate with other people.
The magical thing about MMOGs is that they are virtual, immersive worlds. They are not about individuals escaping human interaction, but rather built from the ground up around human interaction and community building. These rich virtual environments result in relationships every bit as rewarding as your normal real world ones, the only thing they lack initially is face-to-face interaction. So, where in the real world an individual with severe hearing loss effectively loses the ability to socialize with anyone who does not know sign language, in the virtual world they can once again communicate, socialize, and interact on equal footing with millions of individuals spread across hundreds of countries. Where an individual with bad facial scarring might have trouble/be self conscious while trying to interact in face-to-face environments, in the virtual world they are once again judged solely on their personal merits.
I cannot help but feel that, especially now, in a time of war when we have thousands of wounded soldiers returning to civilian life that more should be done to look at the legitimate social merits of the MMOG community. These communities offer incredible potential. Not only as opportunities for the disabled to branch out and socialize, but also as a tool to help break down the real world walls between those who don't understand or are scared of the disabled through mutual exposure and interaction.
The quote that got my attention came in the form of a response submitted to the survey I had posted as part of my thesis work. The open ended response came from a Canadian man in his late 30s who reported working in the government/civil service industry. The gentleman reported,
"My current group of onlie friends have run our own forums and closed site. We have become teh RL equivalent of friends - we share stories, opinions, heartache, and frustrations. Some have met (who are usually more local). I personally am profoundly deaf - most MMOS use text chat thus it make conversing and socializing easier than voice."The last sentence in particular really struck me as significant and also shows that - not only can MMOGs serve as a beneficial tool for the disabled, but even today it already is serving in that capacity.
While recently news coverage has started to shift, coverage of online gaming (I'm talking Orcs and Elves not Blackjack) typically revolves around mal-adjusted, antisocial, violent youths. While I'm a firm believer that that type of coverage is a disgusting distortion of reality - the issue I'm writing about today deals with a very different type of gamer. It is my belief that online games - specifically massively multiplayer games - such as World of Warcraft, Everquest 2, SecondLife etc. are a gift to individuals with disabilities.
The sad reality is that America is a beauty obsessed nation. Beyond that though, humans in general typically experience discomfort when initially interacting with individuals with disabilities. For many that discomfort can cause them to shun, flee, or avoid situations where they might have the opportunity to interact with individuals with disabilities.
Now, to be clear - when I say MMOGs are a gift to individuals with disabilities I'm talking about anyone with a physical disability that would still allow them to engage in game play (e.g. the ability to see the screen and to enter keyboard commands). On the flip side of that I'm not just talking about people confined to wheel chairs or their beds. I'm talking about severe burn victims, the deaf, people with severe allergies - anyone who faces obstacles while trying to communicate with other people.
The magical thing about MMOGs is that they are virtual, immersive worlds. They are not about individuals escaping human interaction, but rather built from the ground up around human interaction and community building. These rich virtual environments result in relationships every bit as rewarding as your normal real world ones, the only thing they lack initially is face-to-face interaction. So, where in the real world an individual with severe hearing loss effectively loses the ability to socialize with anyone who does not know sign language, in the virtual world they can once again communicate, socialize, and interact on equal footing with millions of individuals spread across hundreds of countries. Where an individual with bad facial scarring might have trouble/be self conscious while trying to interact in face-to-face environments, in the virtual world they are once again judged solely on their personal merits.
I cannot help but feel that, especially now, in a time of war when we have thousands of wounded soldiers returning to civilian life that more should be done to look at the legitimate social merits of the MMOG community. These communities offer incredible potential. Not only as opportunities for the disabled to branch out and socialize, but also as a tool to help break down the real world walls between those who don't understand or are scared of the disabled through mutual exposure and interaction.
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